I got sucked into one of those YouTube ads for a master course featuring Marisa Peer. She is evidently an astounding individual with a long list of accomplishments. After attending a one hour free course preview by Mind Valley I was sold and decided to join her Life Uncompromised course. I’m only 2 days in and I’m already making some groundbreaking personal discoveries. Also, just to note, this post is not sponsored in any way at all, I’m simply sharing my experience so far because I can feel myself improving an have to give some credit to this material. It feels really good!

I Know My Truth

I’ve always been pretty in tune with who I am as a person, however, I still have many regrets regarding my behavior. I obsess over mistakes I’ve made and it can be exhausting. In some cases, this obsessing has made things worse for me. Something amazing that Marisa Peer teaches to her clients is this idea of “that’s not me”. It’s simple and it really clicks for me because saying this reminds me that my truth is what matters, even my mind might have ideas about me, but noone can know the real me, other than me, so why stress so much about it?

I was recently enjoying a cup of espresso and thought of a former colleague/roomate and current friend because we shared many moments involving espresso. I thought back to a time where I made a mistake in our relationship and I could tell that my actions did damage. I texted him and let him know that I was thinking about him and apologized for my behavior, which in my mind, had been so horrible and created a lasting negative impression. His response was amazing. He assured me that when he thinks about me and our time living together, he sees all of the good things. He assured me that I am a great person. I am so lucky that I was able to be affirmed in this way by another person because I knew at the time, and I know now, that that isn’t me. That regretful behavior isn’t me, it was a mistake.

We aren’t always so lucky to find the confirmation we seek from other people, but that is ok. We have to assure ourselves some times of who we really are and that should be easy because who knows myself better than me? Noone, not a single person in the world.

Mistakes

I fear making mistakes, likely due to experiences I had in my upbringing. I fear mistakes because I’ve somehow taught myself that mistakes are impossible to recover from, that mistakes define me as a person. I don’t want to live life that way, though, its exhausting and also impossible. Everyone and thing makes mistakes, they are things that happen. My mistakes aren’t me, though. I’m becoming more and more aware that I am the only one that can make myself believe this.

I make mistakes all the time! Big mistakes, little mistakes, funny mistakes and humiliating mistakes. None of these mistakes define me though, these are things that happen. I could list countless regrets when I look back on my life, but would likely struggle to come up with some big accomplishments. I’m working on that. When I think about the past, the regrets are vivid. However, that’s not me. I’m deciding today and tomorrow and the next day that I am not a person full of regret. Simple.

The Choice is Yours

People say it all the time and its definitely a bit of a cheesy cliche, but the choice is yours. The choice is mine to define myself by cringeworthy mistakes I’ve made. Or the choice is mine to treat each day like a new opportunity and forgive myself for tripping every now and then in life. I choose today, and hopefully everyday following, to be patient with myself as I develop habits and behaviors that I believe demonstrate who I am. I choose to let myself evolve over time, nothing is defined for me other than that I am a good person because I know this to be true and always have.

Happy Tuesday and Much Love!